Smart Parenting is a section that addresses real parenting concerns shared by our readers. As a policy, we do not disclose real names unless specifically requested by parents. The names of children are strictly confidential, and only representative names are used. Our Parenting Editors, in consultation with psychologists, provide responses to these queries.
Aarav, 13:
“My mother scolds me about everything. I feel exhausted! I know I’m not perfect and that I make mistakes. I’m not great at studies, and I spend 3-4 hours playing mobile games after school. But it’s not that I don’t want to do well in life—I just struggle to focus and stay motivated. My mother, a homemaker, is always after me. When my father comes home, she complains about me to him. I feel like my parents are ashamed of me.”
Expert answer:
Dear Aarav, do you know what the best thing about you is? You recognize what’s right and wrong, and that is the first step toward success.

It’s important to understand that parents are the only people in the world who love you more than their own lives. Not everyone expresses love in the same way. Your mother may not openly show her love, but she deeply cares about you. Have you ever wondered why she scolds you? It’s because she wants you to do your best. When she asks you to reduce your screen time, it’s not to make you unhappy—it’s because she believes it will help you focus on your future.
Aarav, these years of your life will shape your future. Would it be too hard to dedicate a few hours to self-improvement? Remember, the more a diamond is cut and polished, the more it shines. Here’s a simple plan to follow for two weeks—trust me, you will see a difference in yourself and in your parents’ behavior toward you:

Try this for 21 days and write back to us about your experience. You might be surprised at the positive changes!